Ever since I entered the "adult" world when I was 18, I've always had a great disdain for shaking hands. I don't like coming into contact with what I perceive as someone's dirty hand. The feeling that I'm left with after a sweaty handshake makes me sick and I immediately need to either sanitize or wash my hands. If I don't have the opportunity to do either, I'll spend the next 15 minutes feeling like germs are crawling all over my hand and I refuse to eat or touch anything with that hand. I admit, sometimes my OCD gets out of hand (pun not intended). Obviously, out of uni and into the working world, I've overcome (or really just ignored) my fear of handshakes, especially now that I run my own business with my wonderful business partner, Marinda.
a professional setting, I don't believe women should be treated
differently from men. So a handshake is a given. But lately, as my
social circle has expanded, I've found that outside of the
professional/business realm, men are proffering their hands for me to
shake. It's something that really irks me and I've found it slightly
insulting. Only recently, last Saturday, in fact, I went out with some
friends and I met a couple of their friends. Upon greeting, they stuck
their hands out, expecting reciprocation. I had to politely refuse and
say I don't shake hands in a social setting, whether with women or men.
They were offended. But probably not as offended as I was!
understand that feminists have paved the way for us women and I
genuinely thank them for what they have given us today. But when I'm out
socialising, I want to be treated like a woman by a real
gentleman. Is it just me, or is social etiquette lost in today's
society? It's a subject I passionately rant on about.
suppose I have strong views on the roles of a woman and the roles of a
man; they may not be in line with today's modern world, they may be
regarded as old fashioned, and in fact, I'm probably going to get a lot
of hate for voicing them. But this strange amalgamation of gender roles
throws me off and I find the modern world to be confusing and hard to
navigate. On the one hand
(pun not intended), I want to be recognised as a strong businesswoman,
and on the other hand I want to be treated like a lady. Maybe we all
need to read a book on handshaking etiquette (and social etiquette in
general) so that everyone's on the same page!
spent some serious time thinking about it, probably way more than I
should have, but I just can't get it out of my head that a man should
not shake a woman's hand outside of business. Am I just too old
fashioned and need to suck it up? I can't help but bemoan the times when
chivalry wasn't dead and men would stand up to greet a woman as she
entered the room, or when they held their tongues from using profanity
around a woman. Long gone are those days and it makes me sad.
What are your thoughts?